I have this problem which seems to affect very few of my friends. It does affect my husband, which is why he's my husband.
The problem? I want certain things which I consider morally important, but I want them to be gotten the right way, in concert with our country's laws and traditions.
I have never made a secret of the fact that I support gay marriage. Gays marrying affects me not one whit, as I'm heterosexual (strangely, most of the people I know over the 'net seem to think I'm bi; women lack a...certain something it requires to capture & hold my sexual interest, but that's neither here nor there). It doesn't affect the quality or sanctity of my marriage. It doesn't affect my family, though I suppose it could in the future when the kids are grown.
I am glad to see the spread of marriage equality. I think Chris Christie is an ass for his promise to veto NJ's marriage equality bill. I am quite happy that Christine Gregoire signed Washington state's law without cavil.
However, while I appreciate the ends, I am strongly dissatisfied with the means. WA's marriage bill was voted into place. Voting on civil rights is a horrible thing; I think it's the greatest argument against direct democracy that exists.
Here's the problem with it: if Washington's vote on marriage equality was legal and acceptable, so was California's Proposition 8. Both are the will of the people, after all.
What prompts this post is a link posted by a dear friend of mine to Facebook; a link to an online petition apparently entitled "President Obama: Sign the Executive Order Adding LGBT Workplace Protections to Millions of American Jobs - Sign the Petition!"
While I do, in fact, support the idea of ensuring workers are not discriminated against on the basis of their sexuality (and yes, this happens, and it happens a lot, and you should care because gay people wrongly denied jobs or fired from jobs wind up on the dole), I emphatically do not support making this law by executive fiat.
The Constitution rather clearly lays out the process by which laws can be made. Presidents Gone Wild with the executive order pen doesn't make it acceptable. If it's that important to you, get in touch with your legislators and get the damned law passed properly. If nothing else, that would prevent President Santorum from undoing the protection.*
*No, that is not an endorsement. Or a prediction. But you know damn good and well he would immediately undo any such order.