Sunday, September 07, 2008

Grownups are worse than adolescents.

'Tis true.

I was going to explain that I now have comment moderation turned on here because my apparent internet stalker is back, and throw out my typical quip that I'm apparently dealing with some 12-year-olds.

But it wouldn't be fair to the preteens.

There is no one nastier to grown women than--wait for it...other grown women. I had some issues here and there over the past 18 to 24 months with people leaving nasty, libelous comments on my crochet blog & occasionally here. Usually I just leave them up so the stupid can make themselves known, but this one was nastier than most, and so I took it down and turned on comment moderation this morning. I don't like doing it, but I'm so sick of dealing with the crap. I put someone on an ignore list on a message board for the first time in years. This was a person who posted something nasty in response to damn near everything I said.

I'm sick of dealing with it.

I've gotten some great, in real life, help from some mamas on the internet during a very tough time in my life. I've gotten some very helpful advice online. I've used the internet the way women typically do, to reach out and connect.

I've debated in some cases. I've disagreed rather vehemently over certain subjects. But I've always had the intelligence to drop it and move on to the next topic. I don't spend time thinking about internet "enemies", or at least not until they go over & above to be assholes to me for a long time running. I don't have the energy to lead a double life even on the internet, to be real nice to someone to their face and then attack them in private messages. I certainly have never expended the effort of creating a dummy MySpace profile to libel someone to their spouse or their friends.

But I've had to deal with all of this shit. So. Enough. I'm not going to let it run me off. But I am going to do my best to minimize how much I am forced to deal with it.

I apologize in advance to the two or three folks who comment most often on my blogs, in case you get any of the MySpace style "Sabra is EVIL and here's why" comments/e-mails.

3 comments:

Murphy said...

I didn't know that a crochet blog could be so tumultuous! Heh, your blog, your rules - no worries.

Robin said...

Craft blogs are totally a hotbed of flame wars.

Blog arguments are funny, when you're not intimately involved. I saw a blog comment war this afternoon on what is better: The Dark Knight or Iron Man. These dudes were pissed! (and I giggled whilst reading it all)

knitalot3 said...

That bites. Down with the trolls! Poke them with a crochet hook, or I could loan you a wicked looking knitting needle.

I enjoy both your blogs. Keep your chin up and your hook sharpened.

:-)